45 Lessons in Life by Regina Brett (age 90)!!!

I was guided to these 45 lessons in life  that celebrate growing older and the knowledge that lifes experience provides. Regina Brett wrote the 45 lessons life taught her.

Lessons in

1. Life isn’t fair, but it’s still good.
2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.
3. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.
4. Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your friends and parents will. Stay in touch.
5. Pay off your credit cards every month.
6. You don’t have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.
7. Cry with someone. It’s more healing than crying alone..
8. It’s OK to get angry with God. He can take it.
9. Save for retirement starting with your first paycheck.
10. When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.
11. Make peace with your past so it won’t screw up the present.
12. It’s OK to let your children see you cry.
13. Don’t compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
14. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn’t be in it.
15. Everything can change in the blink of an eye. But don’t worry; God never blinks.
16. Take a deep breath. It calms the mind.
17. Get rid of anything that isn’t useful, beautiful or joyful.
18. Whatever doesn’t kill you really does make you stronger.
19. it’s never too late to have a happy childhood. But the second one is up to you and no one else.
20. When it comes to going after what you love in life, don’t take no for an answer.
21. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie. Don’t save it for a special occasion. Today is special.
22. Over prepare, then go with the flow.
23. Be eccentric now. Don’t wait for old age to wear purple.
24. The most important sex organ is the brain.
25. No one is in charge of your happiness but you.
26. Frame every so-called disaster with these words ”In five years, will this matter?”.
27. Always choose life.
28. Forgive everyone everything.
29. What other people think of you is none of your business.
30. Time heals almost everything.. Give time, time.
31. However good or bad a situation is, it will change. 32
32. Don’t take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
33. Believe in miracles.
34. God loves you because of who God is, not because of anything you did or didn’t do.
35. Don’t audit life.. Show up and make the most of it now.
36. Growing old beats the alternative – dying young.
37. Your children get only one childhood.
38. All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.
39. Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere.
40. If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else’s, we’d grab ours back.
41. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.
42. The best is yet to come.
43. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.
44. Yield.
45. Life isn’t tied with a bow, but it’s still a gift.

Three Ways to redefine YOUR compass!!!

Your best friend is yourself. If you can see the best in yourself, you will find the best in others.

Inside yourself, you always have a choice. Do you stand in the light? or do you stand in the dark?

Your compass in life are your values. Define TODAY, NOW!!! What your top three values are!!!

The Five Steps to Effective Delegation

The Five Steps to Effective Delegation

No person works on their own.  Everyone works with a team or in a team, both professionally and in their private lives.

When building a Team you always need to work with the very best people that you can attract. When leading a team you need to show clear leadership and at all times you need to decide if you are working ON your business or IN your business!!

If you are working in YOUR business YOU are doing the work, if YOU are Woking On your business you are leading and motivating a team. In order to lead and motivate a team you need to master teh art and science of delegation.

There are FIVE STEPS to effective delegation and supervision that will guarantee that your expectations are met with success and the results are achieved.

Step One

The first step in delegation is to become perfectly clear about the results that you desire from the job. The greater clarity you have with regard to the results expected, the easier it is for you to select the right person to do the job.

Step Two

The second step is to select a person based on his or her demonstrated ability or success at doing this job. Never delegate an important job to a person who has never done it before. If the successful completion of the task is important to the success of your business, it is essential that you delegate it to someone who you confidently believe can complete the task satisfactorily.

Step Three

Third, explain to the person exactly what you want done, the results that you expect, the time schedule that you require, and your preferred method of working. The reason that you are in a position to delegate a task is because you have probably already mastered this task. Taking the time to teach and explain the best way to do the task based on your experience is an excellent way to ensure that the task will be done as you wish and on schedule.

Step Four

Step four is to set up a schedule for reporting on progress. If it is an important task, set up a deadline for completion that is a day or a week before your actual deadline. Always build some slack into the system. Then, check on the progress of the task regularly, very much like a doctor would check on the condition of a critical care patient. Leave nothing to chance.

Step Five

Step five, inspect what you expect. Delegation is not abdication. Just because you have assigned a task to another person does not mean that you are no longer accountable. And the more important the task, the more important it is that you keep on top of it.

Action Exercise

1             look at yourself and ask yourself honestly. Are you working In your business,  ie being an employee, and doing the task at hand, or are you working ON your business and delegating tasks to others more able and capable?

2             We all have targets to achieve.  Work out the value of your target for each hour that you work.  If your hourly target rate is say £2500 per hpur, do not do any task that in your mind has a value less than this? Delegate the “Ten-bob-jobs!”

3             What tasks and activities can you effectively delegate you someone else? Which one of your team or virtual team can handle the task more effectively?

What task can you effectively delegate to someone else? Which one of your employees can handle the task efficiently?

Remember...  To learn to master a skill, you need to do one thing 4000 times

and not 4000 things once!!!

Begin to master this in order to grow into being a great leader,

Always lead with Integrity and in line with your values, ethics and principles

Leadership

"Good leaders have good character and good ethics; they do not lie, cheat or steal"

Leadership is a rare quality yet a quality that as humans we all have. A great leader surounds themself with people who are even greater and gets the very best out of everyone. A Leader sets and defines the culture, values, ethics, morals, actions and results of everyone. They Future Pace, meaning that in their minds they are already where they want to be.

A great leader in war commands authotiy by position, wheras in life and in business a great leader commands by respect that is earned and given and not assumed.

The one enduring aspect of leadership is character. Success and popularity is fickle and efemeral...it does not last, but enjoy it while it does. Change is unpredicable, random but is a constant, Change always happens over the passage of time. Through all of this chaos it is the persons character that is the true constant.

We are all only stewards of our time, and our time is now. We must all take up the responsibility and ownership of our own actions and show leadership within ourselves and lead by example.

We ALL have the responsibility of leadership and this is a call to arms for all to seriously take a look at themselves and connect with the leader within. We only have one time...and our time is NOW...do not waste your NOW and your present take action today

Leadership is YOUR responsibility

Build your path through discovery and chance. Quiet your mind, YOUR journey begins here.

CONFIDENCE is an incredibly powerful word in our times. It has driven success and created failure, it has been driving economies and fulling debt, it opens new doors and blinds us to what lies ahead of us.

Confidence is an energy and power that lies deep with us all and to connect with it and take control of who we are we have to teach and educate our inner self to become self aware of our actions, the actions of others and the impact that our actions have in the present and into the future. For as Gary Ryan Blair attests "Everything Counts" Every little detail counts "It's not that the devil is in the details, but that every small particle contains a seed that can potentially determine the difference between success and failure." (Gary Ryan Blair).

We all have to start from this day to make our choices on who we are, what we do and what we want to achieve. What will be your legacy. It is now our time to start to take full ownership and responsibility for who we are and what do, and how we treat all others that we are lucky to come into contact with.